Effective Expression

Power issues can be tricky when there are involvement of communication in a hierarchical relationship. Power is about one's capacity to influence another in terms of attitude and behavior without the worries of controlling at the cost of others. For a balanced relationship, we need to have the courage to be who we are and let the others be who they are. There are different kind of powers which can be positive and negative. Some can also be destructive in a way that it can destroy a relationship. And losing the balance, that is where being manipulative can come in.

What is the particular idea, thought or feeling you would like to communicate in either a home, social or work setting? Describe the way non-verbal cues and wording that could enhance the effectiveness of the message.

It can be difficult to communicate with people at times when the other party shows aggression and unfriendliness. This can happen anywhere. Whether it is in the home, a social setting or in the work place. Aggression means power. There is good power and bad ones. Some people misuse it and it may create unhappiness in a relationship. I think misusing power is easier in the sense that it power is being abused unknowingly, compare to using the right power to show how important we need that in a good relationship where the right kind of communication is involved.
Some people are manipulative in the sense that they do not respect the other person's psychological or emotional turf. They tend to be nosy and ask many questions that may not be important. It can be overwhelming with their attempt to show affection or giving groundless advices.

A girlfriend whom a group of our friends just got to know has been doing this to many of us. We do not know her for a long time and I also hardly hang out with her due to my time constraint. What I always hear from other friends was how she tries to poke into everyone's business and she will not be happy if not given the attention. She will be play sarcasism and keep pestering us for an answer. Most of my friends felt that she has been abusing our trust among each other and she tried to fit into our group the wrong way. Now, we are trying to say no to her request and invitations. Thats what we are trying to do: being assertive! A friend actually did tell her nicely and firmly about her behavior which I guessed she did not take it too well. It ended up bombarding with even more questions to my friend about her rejection. It is quite difficult as she will go around telling people bad things about this certain friend. We have to stand by each other to work against her challenges. It is quite sad to know someone like this. And it added up to our stress level too!